How to Help Loved Ones Battling Infertility


Over the years we've struggled to conceive, I've learned that everyone has an opinion and suggestion when it comes to conception, miscarriage, infertility, fertility treatments, and whether you should or shouldn't have a baby. Infertility is incredibly difficult. Fertility treatments are brutal and exhausting. There are many ways to make a family and not all families are blood related. However, the choice of how to make a family is a personal one and a couple who cannot conceive naturally has to weigh many factors when deciding how to move forward. You cannot possibly know all that they have gone through or considered.

A lot of the following have been said to me over the years we’ve tried to conceive; some I’ve heard said to others. All are heavy bombs to lob at people trying so very hard to do the one thing that seems innate and is so easy for so many others: making a baby. I hope by sharing these you'll be better able to support those struggling to have a baby.  xN


Things to Avoid Saying to People Battling Infertility:

“You can always adopt!”

“Just try IVF.”

“Just relax! Stress is preventing you from getting pregnant.”

“It could be worse. It could be cancer.”

“Trust me, you’re lucky you don’t have kids!”

“Maybe you’re not meant to be parents.” 

“If it’s meant to happen, it will happen.”

“If you lose a few pounds, it will happen.”

“Just get a dog!”

“You can have my children if you want.”

“When are you going to stop trying?”

“Maybe you should stop trying.”

“Take more vacations. You need to relax.”

“Are you pregnant yet?”

“Everything happens for a reason.”

“It’s in God’s hands.”

“You don’t know how lucky you are. Kids are a handful/expensive.”

“You’ll get pregnant when you stop trying.”

“Maybe God doesn’t want you to be parents.”

“Maybe it’s for the best.”

“At least you have one.”

“You should be happy you have one already.”

“Have you tried to have a baby naturally?”

“Have you tried acupuncture?”

Have you tried standing on your head after having sex?”

"You're too old to have a baby."




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